5. The need to always be right
Feeling like we always need to be right, stems from lack of trust and the need to feel safe. By establishing dominance over others we feel secure. If you are always right, it means that someone else always has to be wrong and this can be an ego boost.
When we feel that we are right in our judgements it makes us feel strong and secure and when we are wrong we have a tendency to feel insecure, deficient and even fearful.
The ego dominates the “I vs You” realm of being a learned behaviour of separateness, but when we can release the need to always be right we find a path to inner peace.
How many times can you recognize every day, an action taken by you stemming from fear-based motivation? Some of them can be tricky to recognize, believe me I know. It creeps in when you are least expecting it, probing for a reaction. Causing you to take misguided action, more commonly known as “karma”.
Fear is the quickest derailment from your path to happiness and fulfillment. So when it comes knocking… answer the door with love.
7. All of that extra “stuff”
Wanderlusts and minimalists swear by it. We just don’t need all of that extra “stuff”.
Why not switch it up and see how you feel. The next time you are about to drop a wad on something that you are going to throw out in a few years anyways, trade it in for an experience of a lifetime and make some memories.
I have written about the debilitating effects of guilt so often that I think I will write until my face is blue. Next to fear, guilt is numero uno on my list of emotions that suck the life right out of your soul. They are the two best ways to control a population and the two best ways to keep you locked into your own suffering.
There are no wrongs and there are no rights. You don’t need to hold yourself up to anyone else’s standard, nor your own. We are both dark and light, yin and yang, and if you starve your black wolf he will bite you when you least expect it.
Dark is not evil. Dark energy is merely hidden influences which must come to light (enlightenment).
You must learn how to feed your wolves. Balance is key.