“The law of attraction states that whatever you focus on, think about, read about, and talk about intensely, you’re going to attract more of into your life.” – Jack Canfield
The concept that our thoughts and feelings create our experiences, and that we attract to ourselves what we focus our attention on—has a long history as a theory, but gained wide popularity due to “The Secret”, Oprah, and other mass media outlets.
While there are different theories of why it may work, and caveats you should be aware of, you can use the principles of the law of attraction to relieve stress and to attract the life you want. (I’ve used it in my practice and in my personal life, and it’s worked for me.) The following steps can lead you to the less-stressed life you envision.
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List Your Frustrations
Make a list of all the things in your life that have you feeling frustrated, or that you’d like to change. This can include a stressful job, your children’s behavior, or conflict in your relationships, for example.
List the Positives
Next, begin a journal. For each situation on your list, find everything you can think of that’s positive in the situation.
For example, a difficult job may also bring the benefits of income, creative challenge, or personal growth; the job can be a vehicle for expanding your level of patience, for example. (At the very least, it could bring you the valuable information that this isn’t what you want to be doing with your life!)
Maintain a Positive Attitude
This doesn’t just mean to paste a smile on your face; it means to work at feeling grateful for what you already have, and for what you believe will come. That’s right: shift your focus from your feelings of lack, and toward feelings of gratitude and abundance.
Believe in yourself, in your future, and in God or the universe, and know that you can make whatever changes in your life you want.
Visualize a Better Life
Building and maintaining a visual image of what you want in your life (instead of focusing on what you don’t want) can be a powerful way to attract positive change and opportunity. Make a detailed list of what you’d like in your life.
Sit down daily and visualize what your new life would look like and how it would feel to have these changes.
Think, Feel, Act
Be sure that your thoughts, feelings, and behavior all focus on your goals, rather than your frustrations with your situation, or any negative feelings you may have. Keep your self-talk positive and optimistic; engage in visualizations each day that reflect the life you want; work on your plan of action.
If you do this, you should find you make quick strides in the life you want.
- Frame your thoughts the way you would create positive affirmations, by focusing on what you do want rather than what frustrates you. (You can learn positive affirmations for additional information on this effective tool for positive change.)
- Keep a gratitude journal, where you record the things for which you are grateful. There are many health and stress management benefits to journaling, and this practice helps you develop an attitude of gratitude, which creates a space for more abundance.
- If you’re not sure how your thoughts affect your life, you can assess your thought patterns with an optimism quiz.
- Accept What Is. Rather than spending every day focused on what you don’t like about your life and wishing things were different, try to come to terms with the bad as well as the good. This doesn’t mean that you don’t make positive changes in your life; it just means you don’t focus on your frustrations every day. You make peace with what is while making progress toward what you’d like to have.
This was written by Elizabeth Scott for verywellmind.