When it’s important to you, you always find time for it.
One of the worst excuses for why your relationship has lost its oomph is saying that life has gotten in the way of romance, but it’s true.
Finding time to be intimate when you’ve been together for a while requires commitment to your partner.
With only so many hours in a day, closeness beyond sharing a meal or doing chores together appears to be a luxury you can’t afford.
We all thrive in the busy culture, and we always feel like we’re doing something wrong when we’re not doing anything at all.
Personally, I love being busy, but whenever I have nothing to do, my mind never thinks to ask my boyfriend if he wants to hang out.
It sucks to know that my relationship feels like it’s not really thriving due to lack of quality time spent together, but I also know that it’s up to me and my boyfriend to bring that spark back into our lives.
If you asked me (or pretty much anyone else feeling the relationship blues) why my relationship felt so boring and rocky, I would probably say that there’s never any romance or love anymore.
Is that because my relationship has just faded into something that I’m not happy about anymore? No, but when you let your job and your life get in the way of love, it can certainly feel like that.
In reality, a lot of us feel like our relationships are unfulfilling because we don’t make time for love anymore.
We think that, if it isn’t something that will help us get ahead in our careers or makes us feel like we’re being busy, it’s not important.
But love IS important. We just have to learn how to make time for being friendly, reaching out in caring ways, and doing small gestures that show your person is more than just a title. They hold your heart in their hands and you love them, love them.
Acts of closeness are love’s building blocks set on a daily, and sometimes hourly basis. I always say this, but it bears repeating.
Life is too short NOT to be filled with passionate love.
Whether it’s platonic love, familial love, or romantic love, we should be spending more time looking for ways to make others happy and seeking out our own happiness than trying to put our nose to the grindstone every minute of every day.
Intimacy doesn’t have to mean sex. Being close are the connections we make in life are the things that will carry us through each day and make us feel like we’re wanted and loved – not our jobs.
That said, it’s still up to you to make a conscious effort to make time for love instead of letting it fall by the wayside.
Growing your relationship’s intimacy level is obviously something that you have to be active about, but it’s not impossible. Even the smallest efforts can mean the world to someone you care about.
Here is how to make time for intimacy that enhances your love, based on your zodiac sign, per astrology.
Aries (March 21 – April 19)
Make time for love by being spontaneous, Aries. When life starts to get too busy, and trying to plan a weekend getaway for love seems like a chore, try surprising your S.O. instead! Pick a day when you know you’ll get off work before him and set up a candle-lit dinner for two to surprise him when he gets home.
Making time for love doesn’t have to mean someone extravagant or expensive, but it should be thoughtful. What you really want to do is show your S.O. that, even when life gets chaotic and busy, you still think about and love him. A little spontaneous quality time together will bring you closer together.
Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
One thing we all tend to think is that love is something that has to be planned in advance. That’s why it gets so tricky sometimes. But if you want to make time for love, Taurus, you need to get out of that mindset.
Making time for love is as simple as doing something you already do every day, just doing it with your S.O. Make dinner, do the laundry, or put away the dishes together.
Give yourselves time to talk and reconnect with one another. This may be the only time you have to really bond and make time for love in your busy schedule, so try to make it a regular activity.
GEMINI (May 21 – June 20)
Gemini, you know how it feels when you tell yourself you’re going to plan something special for you and your S.O., only to get home and be totally exhausted by work. I mean, there have probably even been times when you’ve just been too tired and annoyed by work stuff to even have a real conversation, right?
Make time for love by utilizing your gifts – more specifically your gift of communication. Make it a routine to text each other every morning, chat during your lunch break, or even make a Spotify playlist that you can both listen to on your commute home.
The point is, being able to share something, even when you’re not with each other, is a great way to make time for love, no matter what.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
Cancer, you are the caretaker of the zodiac, if there ever was one. You love being there for the people you love, always doing things to make sure that everyone is happy and in good spirits. It’s your own personal way of showing someone you care.
The best way for you to make time for love is to tap into your strengths – AKA making someone feel special. This might mean buying your S.O.’s favorite ice cream for him to have when he’s craving something sweet or giving him a foot massage while he talks about his day.
Whatever makes him feel special, make sure you have it on tap for after work or on the weekend. Just make sure he knows what makes you feel special, too!
Leo (July 23 – August 22)
As a Leo, you need a lot of passion and fire in your relationship. You fully believe that there is always time for love, and if you’re not getting it on a regular basis, you’ll let your S.O. know that something needs to change.
It’s certainly a good thing that you’re so vocal about your needs because, trust me, it’s better than being quiet and hoping your S.O. notices you need something. If you really want to make time for love, consider PDA.
Even if you’re not into finding a quiet place in public to make out, you can still hold hands, open doors for each other, and say “I love you.” Even the smallest expressions of love are important!
Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
Virgo, you are always looking for new ways to take care of someone you love. The way you show others that you love and care about them is through acts of service, after all.
If you want to make time for love, all you have to do is use your love language! Take care of a task that’s been on your S.O.’s plate so that he doesn’t have to worry about it, make dinner for the two of you.
Ask him if there’s anything you can do to make him happy. Lending a helping hand is a hugely understated way to show someone that you love them.
Libra (September 23 – October 22)
Romance is very important to you, Libra – it’s your reason for being! While you love the idea of being swept off your feet all the time by your S.O., you know that there isn’t always time for that kind of expression of love.
If you want to make time for love, you need to get rid of the preconceived notion that love can only exist when it’s over-the-top and spontaneous. Learn to love the comfortable vibe that comes with being with someone you love.
Even when you’re just watching Netflix together or taking a walk, you’re still making time for love… just in a different way than you might have imagined it.
Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)
Being in love is very important to you, Scorpio, but it can also be very scary. You don’t share your heart with just anyone, but when you do find someone you truly care about, you make a serious effort to show him that, scary or not, you’re willing to try.
Make time for love by opening up to your S.O. Show him that, while not everyone is privy to your deepest, truest self, he is.
That might mean sharing a personal anecdote with him or being honest about your feelings for him (“I really enjoy spending time with you”). Remind yourself that he has created a non-judgmental zone for you to be your authentic self.
Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)
You love the idea of love, Sagittarius, but when it comes to actually committing to someone, it can be pretty daunting. One of your biggest fears is losing yourself in a relationship. Even if this doesn’t actually happen, the threat of it is still real.
If you want to make time for love (and still retain who you are in the process), plan a day when you can learn something new from your S.O. and teach him something in return. Sharing your hobbies and teaching each other something is a surefire way to bond with each other, learn something new, and fall in love just a little bit more.
Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)
Your idea of a successful, happy relationship is something that is built on a strong foundation, Capricorn. You like the idea of one day being able to look back on everything you’ve accomplished with your S.O. and saying, “Look how far we’ve come together.” Nothing is more romantic to you than that.
If you want to increase your intimacy, then make time for love. Set out to accomplish a goal together. Being able to work toward a similar goal, like completing a home project together or joining a gym is a great way to bond and see each other’s true selves. It might not always be sexy, but there’s a lot of love to be had when you’re in something together for the long haul.
Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)
You’re not one to like being “tied down” to someone forever, Aquarius, but you can still be more of a traditionalist than you like to let on. Even though you might not like following the rules of a “regular” relationship, there are still things you like about an exclusive partnership.
The best way for you to make time for intimate moments is to experiment with your S.O. That might mean trying something new in the bedroom, going to an interesting restaurant, or trying a new activity during date night.
Still, no matter what you do, doing it together will broaden your horizons and bring you closer together, physically and emotionally.
Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
You’re much more cerebral than physical, Pisces, when it comes to love. You like to connect with your S.O. on an emotional and soulful level because that’s where you’re most comfortable.
The best way for you to make time for love is by interacting with each other on an intellectual and emotional level. This doesn’t have to be planned out in any way, either.
Just work together to be more open and vocal about what you want in life, in bed, and from your relationship. Being honest isn’t always easy or sexy, but it’s a way to invite a lot more love into your relationship.
This was originally published by YourTango.